Dear 21st Century Dad, we’ve moved to a new neighbourhood and we are very fortunate. My son, who has ADHD, met a friend down the street who also is ADHD. His mother is well versed in ADHD issues and is a blessing for trading off tasks and a few hours here and there for respite.
What discomfits me is she refers to her boy as her ADHD son right in his presence and with other people in the room. My son snickers and I’m not sure what to say to her or my son.
Dear I Am What You Name Me,
We are very fortunate to have roadside assistance just down the street! A program that will keep the caregiver in the best physical and mental shape ensures that we will always be able to offer the continuous attention to our children without getting ground down by their constant demands.
We have to be cautious about naming our children’s dysfunctions and conditions. ADHD determines so many aspects of our lives: schedules, diet, energy, learning methods, the list can be endless. Naming reinforces the condition and prevents children from being a success.
Perhaps the worst result is children who do have trouble blending into society can use their named dysfunction as a reason for dropping out of society and not trying to find a method to succeed.
Let’s have a conversation with our son’s friend’s mother. She may not even be aware that she is not helping her son’s self esteem. Her boy is not a project. He is someone who needs support and guidance to become independent.
Google:
1. BC HealthGuide Community Support
Key into YouTube:
1. Kinderen voor Kinderen song – ADHD
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